Friday, June 11, 2004

Saying NO 101

Have you ever be drawn against an attention deficit disorder friend, begging you, and you alone to accompany her to her friend’s wedding? It’s awful rejecting a friend who’s mustering a special attention, but saying NO won’t make you a bad person. In fact, learning how to say it properly will give you a more respectful figure. Sometimes it’s easier to give them a plain white lie, but explaining the true situation with buts is much, much better.

Say things like “i'm actually surprised you are asking. Malacca sounds quite far for me, but happen to be with you make me feel excited. *sigh* Well, i didn’t think that i can make it with you. There’s a small slightly tiny teeny weeny thing i've to do on Saturday. My mom asks me to buy her some fish at nearby market. Yes, blame me, but you know i really have to, aren’t you?”

If she replies with “are you certainly rejecting my invitation?” Say “it’s not like that dear. I’m delaying it to a further invitation. Or shall I give an invitation in return, later?” Then, wait until she replies “okay, i will be fine”. And you’ll find out you’ve made her feel glee. Watch out for a fall-fall tone, she must be sulking or seriously disappointed. Rise-rise tone blatantly shows she is mad on you, but trusts me, she’ll be all right. And don’t forget to leave an apologize and wish a happy day for her. Feel easy to say a long NO. A simple NO is an ouch!

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